Forgive and Forget

Forgive but never forget this is one of my best friends’ life motto. She even went as far as getting it tattooed on to her body. She lives by this motto, and yet I don’t think she truly understands it. How can we say we forgive someone and yet not forget their past actions? IF we forgive them doesn't it mean we are willing to look pass their misdeeds or whatever they did to us. Yet if we don’t forget that is like saying we will hold a grudge forever. There will always be that one black spot in the friendship. One friend will never fully trust the other. It will always be a voice in the back of their minds reminding them of all the things this friend may have done. When life goes on the things will begin to pile up, as we are human and it is the human condition that allows us our mistakes. Ii know my friend is already starting as she continues to bring up something that happened in the seventh grade.

I am an easy going person, once I consider something done that usually settles it. So, her continuously bringing up something that I have already put behind me is grating. I feel as if once a situation is solved to the best of one’s ability we should then put that situation behind us and move on. Life has too many bumps in the road to be caught up in something that, on a large scale, doesn’t really matter. I believe the saying should be forgive and forget, because if it is something you are willing to forgive a person for, then there is no reason to remember it. If you’re not willing to forget then don’t pretend to forgive.